The Work Happens Through Action and Reflection
Clarity doesn't come from thinking harder. It comes from trying things and noticing what happens.
Everything follows a simple cycle:
Plan → Act → Reflect
We plan just enough to give you something real to try. You act in the world, at work, at home, in whatever context matters. We reflect together on what actually happened, what you learned, and what to try next.
This cycle repeats at whatever scale fits: daily, weekly, or over longer stretches. The rhythm adapts to you.
What Involvement Can Include
Support is adaptive, not fixed. The specific combination depends on where you are, what's blocking you, and what actually helps.
Reflection and planning sessions
Structured conversations (60–120 minutes) for sense-making, planning next actions, and reflecting on what happened. These can happen monthly, biweekly, weekly, or even multiple times per week depending on what you need.
Written homework and exercises
Longer reflections or exercises between sessions that help you think through blocks, clarify what you want, or process what's happening. I read, digest, and use them to inform our next steps.
Messages between sessions
Quick questions, status updates, or short exchanges when something comes up. Not constant access, but enough to keep momentum.
Brief check-ins
Short phone calls (around 15 minutes) or structured updates for accountability when you're building a new habit or need regular touchpoints.
At the end of every cycle, and sometimes in the middle, we zoom out for a bigger-picture reflection on whether the work is helping.
In-person observation (rare, when necessary)
Sometimes the best way to understand what's blocking you is to observe you in your actual environment, at work, in your routine, in the context where you're stuck. I watch, take notes, and give you detailed feedback on what I see. This is only offered when the benefit is clear and we both agree it is worth the extra intensity and cost.
The Work Moves Through States
Rather than a fixed timeline, the work moves through states that describe the kind of support you need. These can overlap, repeat briefly, or be skipped entirely.
Finding Ground
We clarify what's actually going on, not just the surface problem, but what's underneath. We align on how we'll work together, set expectations around autonomy and exit, and try a small, real action to see what happens.
Building Momentum
If momentum is low or you're genuinely stuck, I temporarily provide more structure, accountability, or presence. This state is intentionally supportive and intentionally temporary. Cycles here are often shorter, weekly or biweekly, to establish rhythm quickly.
Steady Progress
We run ongoing Plan-Act-Reflect cycles. Structure stays only where it helps. Advice may be offered as experiments, never mandates. Reflection deepens. You increasingly steer the work yourself. Cycles here are typically monthly.
Letting Go
Support is deliberately reduced. Reflection and planning shift to you. We name what you can now do without me and celebrate both progress and missteps. Dependency is actively dismantled here. This is the only required state before ending. We don't just stop; we intentionally ramp down.
Ending support can feel both satisfying and unsettling—and we make space for both.
The work is successful when you no longer need it.
Celebrating What You Learn
Every attempt, whether it works or doesn't, generates useful information.
"Failure" isn't a setback. It's data that tells us what to try next. Success isn't the only thing worth noting. Progress isn't linear, and that's expected, not a problem.
We celebrate discovering what doesn't work just as much as discovering what does. The point is learning and moving forward, not perfection.
Renewable Cycles
Work happens in cycles, usually monthly, sometimes shorter during early stages to build rhythm faster.
Each cycle includes:
- A clear level of involvement and access
- Agreed-upon structure (sessions, messages, check-ins)
- Ongoing Plan-Act-Reflect framing
At the end of each cycle, we evaluate:
- Is this working?
- Does the level of involvement need to change?
- Are we ready to move to the next state, or do we need more time here?
No cycle commits either of us to the next one. We continue only while the work is useful.
What Happens After We're Done
Safety Line (optional)
After our work ends, you can pay for the option to reach out once during a month, for reassurance, a quick question, or brief recalibration. You might not need it, but it's there if you do.
This is only available to people who have completed ongoing accompaniment work (not just a Fit Check or One-Time Session). This is a single, intentional touchpoint, not ongoing access.
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